What Does a Man Want in a Woman?

“Mwanamke ni tabia”, so I have heard. Sounds reasonable but why does a man cheat on a good woman? To answer this question, I believe that we need to define what we mean by a “good woman”. This is where we get the phase, “mwanamke ni tabia”, meaning that a good woman is one with a good character. I believe that there is much more. In the traditional Afrika, a bride was not married to the groom but to the groom’s family. She was responsible for taking care of the entire family alongside respecting those who held senior positions in the clan. A woman of good character was preferred for a bride. Enough about traditional Afrika, we are in the 21^st Century and so much has changed.

Westernization of the Afrikan community has brought its positives and also carried along its negatives. Love is considered to be a core factor in marriage and other things can follow. According to statistics, an alarming large number of married men and women are actively involved in adultery. The magic of love does not seem to stop this. So goes the lyrics,” how could an angel break my heart?” A learned professor argued that men cannot fully commit to one woman due to an extra hormone. He argued that it was a scientific fact but could not explain it. It appeared as a, submit with no questions kind of method that required one to believe without question. Therefore, I will ignore this scientific fact and go ahead to discuss this further. Maybe we got it all wrong and we need to go back to the drawing board and start asking relevant questions.

“What does a man want in a woman?” This to me is a question that should be in every lad’s mind who is considering marriage. As we look for a woman who meets our parent’s standards, we forget what we really want. Sex is a core factor when it comes to a man. It is a sad truth that men are sexual beings. I know of men who will choose big boobs over brains. So how do you commit to one woman since they are all lacking in one way or another?  The answer is between the lines.

Maybe the professor was right about men of the flesh not being able to commit to one woman. They all got that extra one hormone that doesn’t allow them to be content with what a single woman has to offer. These men keep turning their heads staring at a bigger butt and salivating at larger boobs. It’s all in the mind. Science has revealed that a man thinks about sex nearly 90% of his time. I am not saying that it is impossible to commit to one woman, all I am saying is that it takes more than an everyday man to be faithful.

Purpose is a key aspect in shaping character. As a Christian, I believe that transformation through the blood of Jesus Christ gives a Christian control over his flesh. The scripture quotes that the flesh is in a fight with the spirit. The flesh is worldly but the spirit is eternal. When one makes a decision to receive Jesus Christ as Lord and Savior, he puts things of the flesh to death and embraces a new spiritual nourishment. He is never the same again. Only such a man through studying the scripture, prayer, fasting and fellowship has strength to overcome the flesh. So what does a man look for in a woman? A good woman should be deep into Christ that you have to find Christ Jesus to discover her.

Ladies and gentlemen, it has nothing to do with the flesh as you might have though. A woman who loves the Lord has got the complete package for a man who loves Jesus Christ.

Until then, I remain yours truly

Dr. Kiptanui

Words of Doom

If you are thinking that my point of focus are the ‘S’ and ‘F’ words, then you ought to rethink. This however, does not cleanse these words of curses they carry. If you are not using the F and S words, you are using other words that you do not know of their meaning. Evolution is in evitable in this universe. I do not whatsoever subscribe to the physical evolution of humans having evolved from lizards. The basis of my stand is that there is nothing evolving to the higher, physical, better being. My line of evolution is in mind, perception and character. This being said, I shall concentrate on the evolution of language (English).

‘Aki ya Mungu (before God), God be my witness, I swear with my life, may lightening strike me if I am lying!! These are not mere words but outrageous cries against the well being of your soul. You are committing to something with a death penalty for not keeping the end of your bargain. I assume that the atheists don’t use such words since the free thinkers’ thing that there exists no God. For those who subscribe to the Christian way of life, here is what the Holy Bible says;

“You shall not misuse the name of the Lord your God, for the Lord will not hold anyone guiltless who misuses his name”. (Exodus 20:7) Other versions state; Do not use the Lord’s name in Vain….

You might think that by keeping a promise, ones guilt is uplifted. This depends with the nature of the circumstances that you are in. Only in situations where you need to uplift the Lords name, you may call on the Lords faithfulness. In this 21^st Century, words have lost their meaning. They are simply empty vessels used by those who find no purpose. One will complicate a simple situation that required a yes or no answer by beating around the bush. We feel insecure, tricked and about to be snared by those around us. This is simply because we are the cunning ones looking to play tricks. A righteous man is led by wisdom and keeps matters simple and on point. He understands that anything beyond a full-stop could be deceiving.

“34 But I tell you, Do not swear at all: either by heaven, for it is God’s throne; 35 or by the earth, for it is his footstool; or by Jerusalem, for it is the city of the Great King. 36 And do not swear by your head, for you cannot make even one hair white or black. 37 Simply let your ‘Yes’ be ‘Yes,’ and your ‘No,’ ‘No’; anything beyond this comes from the evil one. (Matthew 5:34-37)

The need for swearing is a lie. This means that you are incapable of telling the truth and your words cannot be trusted. In the early age, A man found of telling lies, had to be placed under oath to tell the truth. Please note that one had to be forced to take an oath so as to tell the truth. In our day to day life, we hear people voluntarily swear even when it is unnecessary and we do not understand why things work against us?!

The Authors in the early age used some words to mean something that they no longer do. For instance, the term ‘Know’ this was used to refer to sexual status of a pair of different sexes. Example, I did not know my wife until the day of our wedding night. You might be thinking that language has truly evolved, but no, we have changed.

We find no purpose in life just like our parents didn’t. They missed the point when they started living a routine. Just like the clock. Ticks from 00:00hrs to 23:59hrs the same way it does day by day. Find Purpose when you still can and make a meaning out of life. Begin with the Gospel of Apostle John.

By Dr. Musoosi

What If There Is No God?

This is Obviously a stupid question or argument. It’s common sense, there exists a higher power. Every religion conforms to this belief as a basis of it’s existence. Despite thinking of God’s existence as common sense, there is still a certain percentage of the worlds population that think, God doesn’t exist. These people are refereed to as Atheists. A very distinctive name to the free thinkers. The thing is that it doesn’t matter. Beyond human understanding, exists a god. The fear of the unknown is what creates a need of a religion (my thoughts). Makes me think if the Atheists could be knowing a little too much or they are simply fools. The Holy Bible refers to nonbelievers as fools. I am not familiar with the teachings in other religions and could be careless in outlining some facts. That being said, I will restrict my focus to Christianity.

I would like to identify myself as a Christians for many reasons. Because I was born in a family that goes to church on Sunday. Because I have a Christian name and I read the Holy Bible occasionally. If you identify yourself as a Christian basing on the reasons given above, then  am not  talking about you. The term Christians was used to refer on those who were Christ like. It was only used to refer to those who imitated the life of Jesus Christ. Those that believed on him. These are the people I would like to refer to as Christians. Here goes the question: What if Christianity was not real? What if the resurrection was not real? What would Christians lose?

Answer: Here on Earth, NOTHING. I am confident of this answer. If you believe or have an idea of the teachings in Christianity, then you side with me. If you do not agree, then come and let us reason together. According to earthy understanding of happiness, one has to carelessly put his life on the edge to have ‘fun’. Let’s talk about Alcohol; how many times have you blamed your troubles on alcohol? Perhaps more than  you can remember or never. Are you aware of how many deaths have been caused by one not being in the right state of mind due to ingestion of alcohol? How about the damages caused by consumption of alcohol? They even state that; “Excessive consumption  of alcohol is harmful to your health!!” You might argue on the excessive part, have you ever asked yourself why they do not specify the exact quantity that is right for consumption? Why do they keep you guessing? Cigarettes, addictions, raves and any other kind of activity associated with “fun”. You might think that these things are meant for fun because you are under the condemnation of the world and its laws. Have you ever found a sound reason as to why people smoke? The Holy Bible teaches that a human body is the temple of the Lord and has to be kept holy and in good shape.

Christianity is not to be taken as a religion but as a way of life. Christianity as a lifestyle is kept at check by its pillars. These pillars are the fruits of the Holy spirit. The two laws given Jesus Christ summarizes all that there is for a better life. 1. Love the Lord your God with all your heart, with all your soul and with all your mind. 2. Love your neighbor as you love yourself. (Matthew 22:37-39). These are the two greatest commandments. What harm could it be to love your neighbors? Living a sober productive life free from any form of worldly enslavement is good for one’s life. Christianity teaches of how to live a long and fulfilled life and nothing less.

“For God so loved the world, that he gave his only begotten son, that whoever believes in him should not perish but have everlasting life.” John 3:16. This might seem as a common Bible verse but is the most powerful of them all. If I believe in the teachings of The holy Bible, then I believe on the death and Resurrection of the Christ and life after death.

There is no losing in Christianity. It is a win win situation. If there is no heaven after death, we have a small heaven here on earth that is defined by real love and fellowship.

Until then, I remain yours.

Dr. Musoosi